While we move into the section of Interpersonal Effectiveness of DBT it is important to know our goals and set a corse of what we are intending to learn.
What is stopping you from having Healthy Relationships?
- Lack of skills
- Worried thoughts
- High or uncontrollable emotions
- Others get in your way
- You simply forget your long-term goals for short-term goals
- Beliefs that you don’t deserve it
- Your environment
Goals for Interpersonal Effectiveness
- Learn how to be skillful in getting your needs met from others and how to ask for what you need or want.
- Learn how to build healthy relationships, how to end destructive ones and how to handle difficult people in your life.
- Learning how to walk Middle Path – how to maintain the balance of acceptance and change.
Statements that get in the way for Interpersonal Effectiveness
- I don’t deserve to get what I want or need
- Saying no to someone is selfish.
- I must be inadequate if I can’t take care of this myself.
- If I ask for something, I must be weak.
- They should just know what I need.
- Others don’t deserve for me to be skillful.
- Revenge will feel so good; I don’t care about any consequences.
- I shouldn’t have to negotiate to get what I want.
- If they say no, it will feel terrible.
- I don’t need to be nice to get what I need.
Cheerleading Statements For Interpersonal Effectiveness
- I will survive if I get told no.
- I am under no obligation to say “yes” to anyone.
- I deserve to get what I need.
- My long-term goals and values make me feel better about short-term decisions.
- Asking for something with and being assertive means, it is important to me.
What have you noticed that is keeping you from having the most effective relationships?