Introduction to Interpersonal Effectiveness

While we move into the section of Interpersonal Effectiveness of DBT it is important to know our goals and set a corse of what we are intending to learn.

What is stopping you from having Healthy Relationships?

  • Lack of skills
  • Worried thoughts
  • High or uncontrollable emotions
  • Others get in your way
  • You simply forget your long-term goals for short-term goals
  • Beliefs that you don’t deserve it
  • Your environment

Goals for Interpersonal Effectiveness

  • Learn how to be skillful in getting your needs met from others and how to ask for what you need or want.
  • Learn how to build healthy relationships, how to end destructive ones and how to handle difficult people in your life.
  • Learning how to walk Middle Path – how to maintain the balance of acceptance and change.

Statements that get in the way for Interpersonal Effectiveness

  1. I don’t deserve to get what I want or need
  2. Saying no to someone is selfish.
  3. I must be inadequate if I can’t take care of this myself.
  4. If I ask for something, I must be weak.
  5. They should just know what I need.
  6. Others don’t deserve for me to be skillful.
  7. Revenge will feel so good; I don’t care about any consequences.
  8. I shouldn’t have to negotiate to get what I want.
  9. If they say no, it will feel terrible.
  10. I don’t need to be nice to get what I need.

Cheerleading Statements For Interpersonal Effectiveness

  1. I will survive if I get told no.
  2. I am under no obligation to say “yes” to anyone.
  3. I deserve to get what I need.
  4. My long-term goals and values make me feel better about short-term decisions.
  5. Asking for something with and being assertive means, it is important to me.

What have you noticed that is keeping you from having the most effective relationships?

Interview with Amber Seater Finding Middle Path Podcast

Meet Amber Seater, LPC. She has a heart to work with those who are struggling with trauma and sexual assaults. She uses a wholistic approach and integrates yoga with various types of therapies. Listen as Amber talks about validation and how she uses it in her counseling.
  1. Interview with Amber Seater
  2. A Moment of Vulnerability ( from a therapist )
  3. Know the Warning Sings of Suicide 1-800-273-8255
  4. Applying Dialectics
  5. Understanding Dialectics

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