Relationship Repairs + the 25 Red Flags

Relationships take work. The healthy ones show signs of repairs and valuing each other in the relationships. The Toxic ones have warnings signs and Red Flags. Lack of compromise. Subtle control, such as strongly encouraging you to dress a certain way. Guilt tripping. Coercive behavior, or behavior that pressures you into things. Having a typicallyContinue reading “Relationship Repairs + the 25 Red Flags”

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Interpersonal Effectiveness: Criteria for Saying Yes and No

Do you know how to effectively say YES and NO? The following is the DBT criteria for how to learn the intensity and the criteria on asking for a need to be met or for you to say no effectively and still maintain the relationship. At the end there is a game you can useContinue reading “Interpersonal Effectiveness: Criteria for Saying Yes and No”

GIVE Skill + Learning how to Validate

The GIVE Skill in Interpersonal Effectiveness is a great reminder of our approach and how we address people who we are asking something from or saying No to. It is hard to set boundaries and learning how to ask for our needs to be met. The give skill is a way to slow it down,Continue reading “GIVE Skill + Learning how to Validate”

Introduction to Interpersonal Effectiveness

While we move into the section of Interpersonal Effectiveness of DBT it is important to know our goals and set a corse of what we are intending to learn. What is stopping you from having Healthy Relationships? Lack of skills Worried thoughts High or uncontrollable emotions Others get in your way You simply forget yourContinue reading “Introduction to Interpersonal Effectiveness”

Seasonal Affect Disorder

Winter can be tough for many reasons. It is dark, there is snow and many times we just want to stay in. Most of that is ok, it is when it starts to impact other areas of our lives and we start to see our mood declining. This is the purpose of knowing the differenceContinue reading “Seasonal Affect Disorder”

Emotion Regulation – Changing Emotion & Opposite Action

The following chart is an addition to what we have been learning about Emotions. Since we have been journeying through the Emotion Regulation part of DBT we have gotten to the Changing your Emotion and Opposite Action. This is where we move from validation into action. We identify the initial urge we feel when theContinue reading “Emotion Regulation – Changing Emotion & Opposite Action”

How to use DBT to set goals in Therapy and in Life.

The main goal in DBT is to decrease any-type of problem behavior. Behaviors to Decrease: Interpersonal Chaos, loneliness, being in unhealthy relationships¬† Unstable moods and emotions, and willfulness Impulsive behavior, difficulty accepting reality¬† Mindlessness, emptiness, judgmental attitude Behaviors to Increase: Interpersonal effectiveness Emotional Regulation Distress Tolerance Mindfulness Before setting a goal with a client weContinue reading “How to use DBT to set goals in Therapy and in Life.”

Top 3 Therapy Books ( Non-DBT )

Boundaries – Dr Henry Cloud and John Townsend Co-Dependent No More – Melody Beattie  Trauma Stewardship -Laura van Dernoot Lipsky As stated in my recent podcast I highlight reasons why these are my GO TO books that are non-DBT.