Relationship Repairs + the 25 Red Flags

Relationships take work. The healthy ones show signs of repairs and valuing each other in the relationships. The Toxic ones have warnings signs and Red Flags.

  1. Lack of compromise.
  2. Subtle control, such as strongly encouraging you to dress a certain way.
  3. Guilt tripping.
  4. Coercive behavior, or behavior that pressures you into things.
  5. Having a typically confrontational attitude.
  6. Unreasonable statements about how much they deserve, or what they deserve.
  7. Feeling as though the whole world is against them, all the time.
  8. Denying their behavior.
  9. Lack of trust in you.
  10. Lack of respect for your feelings.
  11. Sarcastic comments downplayed as jokes.
  12. Extreme jealousy.
  13. The silent treatment.
  14. Building you up, then breaking you down and repeating this cycle.
  15. Lying.
  16. Statements like, “If you loved me, you would x, y, z.”
  17. Gaslighting.
  18. Abusive actions in prior relationships.
  19. Cruelty toward others.
  20. Interrogations about your day and whereabouts.
  21. Sabotaging your friendships (isolation).
  22. Breaking boundaries.
  23. Not taking responsibility for their actions.
  24. Showing disrespect toward former partners.
  25. Constant checking in, needing to know where you are at all times.

Repairs are important in any relationship. Repairing is not an admission that your partner was “right” or that they have “won”. Rather, a repair attempt is an act of loving behavior not only to your partner but also to the relationship you share. It’s about putting your relationship first and ensuring that your relationship wins the fight.

Interview with Emily Keehn with Timberline Knolls Finding Middle Path Podcast

We are so honored to have Emily Keehn, LPC – Speak with us today on behalf of Timberline Knolls a treatment facility in the suburbs or Chicago. Timberline Knolls ( TK ) is a Mental Health Residential Treatment program that focuses on using DBT ( Dialectical Behavioral Therapy ) with their clients. They have many other programs that and we are thrilled to talk to Emily who has been with TK for 6years and to see the development of many of their programs. If you want to find out more about TK please visit They also have a wonderful YouTube presence with helpful videos. Be sure to follow them. — Send in a voice message:
  1. Interview with Emily Keehn with Timberline Knolls
  2. Kevin Hart is a DBT Resource
  3. Why Telehealth is important for Mental Health
  4. Interview With That Darn Amygdala
  5. Interview with Amber Seater

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