Interview with Amber Seater

Meet Amber Seater, LPC. She has a heart to work with those who are struggling with trauma and sexual assaults. She uses a wholistic approach and integrates yoga with various types of therapies. Listen as Amber talks about validation and how she uses it in her counseling. If you want to find out more aboutContinue reading “Interview with Amber Seater”

Relationship Repairs + the 25 Red Flags

Relationships take work. The healthy ones show signs of repairs and valuing each other in the relationships. The Toxic ones have warnings signs and Red Flags. Lack of compromise. Subtle control, such as strongly encouraging you to dress a certain way. Guilt tripping. Coercive behavior, or behavior that pressures you into things. Having a typicallyContinue reading “Relationship Repairs + the 25 Red Flags”

Do you know your values?

Have you ever filled out a values assessment or taken the time to put words on what your values are? This is a quick exercise that will help you to narrow down the language to help you understand the things that are most important to you and check in with yourself that you are respectingContinue reading “Do you know your values?”

Interpersonal Effectiveness: Criteria for Saying Yes and No

Do you know how to effectively say YES and NO? The following is the DBT criteria for how to learn the intensity and the criteria on asking for a need to be met or for you to say no effectively and still maintain the relationship. At the end there is a game you can useContinue reading “Interpersonal Effectiveness: Criteria for Saying Yes and No”

GIVE Skill + Learning how to Validate

The GIVE Skill in Interpersonal Effectiveness is a great reminder of our approach and how we address people who we are asking something from or saying No to. It is hard to set boundaries and learning how to ask for our needs to be met. The give skill is a way to slow it down,Continue reading “GIVE Skill + Learning how to Validate”

Emotion Regulation – Changing Emotion & Opposite Action

The following chart is an addition to what we have been learning about Emotions. Since we have been journeying through the Emotion Regulation part of DBT we have gotten to the Changing your Emotion and Opposite Action. This is where we move from validation into action. We identify the initial urge we feel when theContinue reading “Emotion Regulation – Changing Emotion & Opposite Action”

New Resource: 10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD

We recently reviewed the book 10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD: How to overcome Chronic Distraction & Accomplish Your Goals on our Podcast. I discussed how I have personally used this book and how I use it in our practice. As a DBT therapist I use the skills in my daily life and I teachContinue reading “New Resource: 10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD”