Understanding Dialectics

Dialectics are helpful way to view the world. In simple terms, it is when two opposing truths can be true at the same time. a.) Dialectics teach us that there are more than one way to see a situation and more than one way to solve any problem. b.) Dialectics consider all people to haveContinue reading “Understanding Dialectics”

Resource: How I Hacked Online Dating

Introduction to Interpersonal Effectiveness

While we move into the section of Interpersonal Effectiveness of DBT it is important to know our goals and set a corse of what we are intending to learn. What is stopping you from having Healthy Relationships? Lack of skills Worried thoughts High or uncontrollable emotions Others get in your way You simply forget yourContinue reading “Introduction to Interpersonal Effectiveness”

Learning to reduce emotional vulnerabilities with the ABC Please Skill

The ABC Please skill are important for many reasons. We not only need a way to validate our emotions when they happen ( like we just learned in Fitting the Facts ) we also need to know all the different reasons our mood is impacted. Once we know those we can begin to apply SimpleContinue reading “Learning to reduce emotional vulnerabilities with the ABC Please Skill”

Emotion Regulation – Changing Emotion & Opposite Action

The following chart is an addition to what we have been learning about Emotions. Since we have been journeying through the Emotion Regulation part of DBT we have gotten to the Changing your Emotion and Opposite Action. This is where we move from validation into action. We identify the initial urge we feel when theContinue reading “Emotion Regulation – Changing Emotion & Opposite Action”

New Resource: 10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD

We recently reviewed the book 10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD: How to overcome Chronic Distraction & Accomplish Your Goals on our Podcast. I discussed how I have personally used this book and how I use it in our practice. As a DBT therapist I use the skills in my daily life and I teachContinue reading “New Resource: 10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD”

Distress Tolerance Skill- ACCEPTS

The Distress Tolerance Skill ACCEPTS is typically the FIRST intervention that I teach to my clients who just can not bounce back from high/extreme/big emotions. We start with Activities and the trick is to FULLY throw yourself into the activity for a set amount of time. Set a timer for 15/30/45 minutes. Check in withContinue reading “Distress Tolerance Skill- ACCEPTS”

Top 3 Therapy Books ( Non-DBT )

Boundaries – Dr Henry Cloud and John Townsend Co-Dependent No More – Melody Beattie  Trauma Stewardship -Laura van Dernoot Lipsky As stated in my recent podcast I highlight reasons why these are my GO TO books that are non-DBT.