When learning how to be the most effective in relationships we not only need to learn the criteria of when to say no and when to say yes, it is nice to have additional criteria to build from. This is information that is found in the book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. JohnContinue reading “10 Laws of Boundaries and Interpersonal Effectivness”
Do you know how to effectively say YES and NO? The following is the DBT criteria for how to learn the intensity and the criteria on asking for a need to be met or for you to say no effectively and still maintain the relationship. At the end there is a game you can useContinue reading “Interpersonal Effectiveness: Criteria for Saying Yes and No”
While we move into the section of Interpersonal Effectiveness of DBT it is important to know our goals and set a corse of what we are intending to learn. What is stopping you from having Healthy Relationships? Lack of skills Worried thoughts High or uncontrollable emotions Others get in your way You simply forget yourContinue reading “Introduction to Interpersonal Effectiveness”
The ABC Please skill are important for many reasons. We not only need a way to validate our emotions when they happen ( like we just learned in Fitting the Facts ) we also need to know all the different reasons our mood is impacted. Once we know those we can begin to apply SimpleContinue reading “Learning to reduce emotional vulnerabilities with the ABC Please Skill”
Winter can be tough for many reasons. It is dark, there is snow and many times we just want to stay in. Most of that is ok, it is when it starts to impact other areas of our lives and we start to see our mood declining. This is the purpose of knowing the differenceContinue reading “Seasonal Affect Disorder”
Dealing with grief this year is going to be tough for many families. I want to make sure you have the skills you need to stay on the path and keep using your DBT skills to help you though this time. How do you deal with grief? How have you been taught to deal withContinue reading “Grief around the Holidays”
The TIPP Skill is a quick intervention that is used to change your body chemistry, so that you can begin to regain some control and then look for validation or problem solving. This is especially helpful in a panic attack situation or where you have just been triggered and feel numb.
This is a BONUS episode to help practice mindfulness. You will need a Piece of Chocolate or Candy to do this activity. I used Hershey Chocolate Kisses. Take about 5 minutes to practice practice mindfulness.
Boundaries – Dr Henry Cloud and John Townsend Co-Dependent No More – Melody Beattie Trauma Stewardship -Laura van Dernoot Lipsky As stated in my recent podcast I highlight reasons why these are my GO TO books that are non-DBT.