Acceptance and Change

DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) is a type of therapy that involves a structured approach to healing. In our office we do a longer intake process to help to understand who you are and where you are. We don’t just jump into change. We want to find your current strengths and find ways to build onContinue reading “Acceptance and Change”

5 Ways to Solve a Problem

TOOLS for DBT: 5 Ways to Solve a Problem 1. SOLVE THE PROBLEMSimple Solutions – If you are hot, turn on a fan, if you need more light, turn on a light, if you need to change the situation then do so.(Use interpersonal effectiveness skills or Use Problem-Solving) 2. FEEL BETTER ABOUT THE PROBLEMChange (orContinue reading “5 Ways to Solve a Problem”

Self Soothe Skills

Taste Have a good meal; have a favorite soothing drink (i.e. tea, hot chocolate); have your favorite ice cream; eat mindfully; have a mint or something with a strong flavor   Hearing Listen to soothing music; sing your favorite song; pay attention to sounds of nature (birds, rain, waves at the beach and waterfalls). GetContinue reading “Self Soothe Skills”

Know the Warning Signs of Suicide

1-800-273-8255 – National Suicide Prevention Help Line According to the National Institute of Mental Health the behaviors listed below may be some of the signs that someone is thinking about suicide. Talking about: Wanting to die Great guilt or shame Being a burden to others Feeling: Empty, hopeless, trapped, or having no reason to liveContinue reading “Know the Warning Signs of Suicide”

10 Laws of Boundaries and Interpersonal Effectivness

When learning how to be the most effective in relationships we not only need to learn the criteria of when to say no and when to say yes, it is nice to have additional criteria to build from. This is information that is found in the book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. JohnContinue reading “10 Laws of Boundaries and Interpersonal Effectivness”

Interpersonal Effectiveness: Criteria for Saying Yes and No

Do you know how to effectively say YES and NO? The following is the DBT criteria for how to learn the intensity and the criteria on asking for a need to be met or for you to say no effectively and still maintain the relationship. At the end there is a game you can useContinue reading “Interpersonal Effectiveness: Criteria for Saying Yes and No”

Seasonal Affect Disorder

Winter can be tough for many reasons. It is dark, there is snow and many times we just want to stay in. Most of that is ok, it is when it starts to impact other areas of our lives and we start to see our mood declining. This is the purpose of knowing the differenceContinue reading “Seasonal Affect Disorder”

Top 3 Therapy Books ( Non-DBT )

Boundaries – Dr Henry Cloud and John Townsend Co-Dependent No More – Melody Beattie  Trauma Stewardship -Laura van Dernoot Lipsky As stated in my recent podcast I highlight reasons why these are my GO TO books that are non-DBT.