10 Laws of Boundaries and Interpersonal Effectivness

When learning how to be the most effective in relationships we not only need to learn the criteria of when to say no and when to say yes, it is nice to have additional criteria to build from. This is information that is found in the book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. JohnContinue reading “10 Laws of Boundaries and Interpersonal Effectivness”

Interpersonal Effectiveness: Criteria for Saying Yes and No

Do you know how to effectively say YES and NO? The following is the DBT criteria for how to learn the intensity and the criteria on asking for a need to be met or for you to say no effectively and still maintain the relationship. At the end there is a game you can useContinue reading “Interpersonal Effectiveness: Criteria for Saying Yes and No”

GIVE Skill + Learning how to Validate

The GIVE Skill in Interpersonal Effectiveness is a great reminder of our approach and how we address people who we are asking something from or saying No to. It is hard to set boundaries and learning how to ask for our needs to be met. The give skill is a way to slow it down,Continue reading “GIVE Skill + Learning how to Validate”

Starting Mindfulness – What & How Skills

WHAT SKILLS OBSERVE Just Notice the experience. Watch your thoughts and feelings come and go like clouds in the sky. Do not push away your thoughts and feelings, just let them happen. Notice your body sessions – with all Senses (Seeing, smells, touch, taste, hearing)  Practice wordless watching Exercise: Take a quick 5-10 second glanceContinue reading “Starting Mindfulness – What & How Skills”

What you need to know when starting DBT.

What to know at the beginning of starting DBT ( Dialectical Behavioral Therapy). Some key elements all clients should be aware of are:  Individual Therapy Sessions Coaching Calls Diary Cards Group Therapy Each is a vital part of DBT and add an extra element that some other therapies do not offer.  What questions do youContinue reading “What you need to know when starting DBT.”