Understanding Dialectics

Dialectics are helpful way to view the world. In simple terms, it is when two opposing truths can be true at the same time. a.) Dialectics teach us that there are more than one way to see a situation and more than one way to solve any problem. b.) Dialectics consider all people to haveContinue reading “Understanding Dialectics”

The Behavior Chain Analysis (BCA) Tool

The Behavior Chain Analysis Tool is used many times throughout the DBT treatment. It can feel overwhelming to some and it is designed to help the client and therapist both understand all the surrounding elements that cause problematic behavior.  Problematic Behaviors can be: Smoking Drinking Cutting/Self Harm Eating Issues Not Taking Medication Missing Sessions/Canceling/Showing upContinue reading “The Behavior Chain Analysis (BCA) Tool”

10 Laws of Boundaries and Interpersonal Effectivness

When learning how to be the most effective in relationships we not only need to learn the criteria of when to say no and when to say yes, it is nice to have additional criteria to build from. This is information that is found in the book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. JohnContinue reading “10 Laws of Boundaries and Interpersonal Effectivness”

Interpersonal Effectiveness: Criteria for Saying Yes and No

Do you know how to effectively say YES and NO? The following is the DBT criteria for how to learn the intensity and the criteria on asking for a need to be met or for you to say no effectively and still maintain the relationship. At the end there is a game you can useContinue reading “Interpersonal Effectiveness: Criteria for Saying Yes and No”

GIVE Skill + Learning how to Validate

The GIVE Skill in Interpersonal Effectiveness is a great reminder of our approach and how we address people who we are asking something from or saying No to. It is hard to set boundaries and learning how to ask for our needs to be met. The give skill is a way to slow it down,Continue reading “GIVE Skill + Learning how to Validate”

New Resource: 10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD

We recently reviewed the book 10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD: How to overcome Chronic Distraction & Accomplish Your Goals on our Podcast. I discussed how I have personally used this book and how I use it in our practice. As a DBT therapist I use the skills in my daily life and I teachContinue reading “New Resource: 10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD”

Grief around the Holidays

Dealing with grief this year is going to be tough for many families. I want to make sure you have the skills you need to stay on the path and keep using your DBT skills to help you though this time. How do you deal with grief? How have you been taught to deal withContinue reading “Grief around the Holidays”

Distress Tolerance Skill – TIPP Skill

The TIPP Skill is a quick intervention that is used to change your body chemistry, so that you can begin to regain some control and then look for validation or problem solving. This is especially helpful in a panic attack situation or where you have just been triggered and feel numb. 

Distress Tolerance Skill- ACCEPTS

The Distress Tolerance Skill ACCEPTS is typically the FIRST intervention that I teach to my clients who just can not bounce back from high/extreme/big emotions. We start with Activities and the trick is to FULLY throw yourself into the activity for a set amount of time. Set a timer for 15/30/45 minutes. Check in withContinue reading “Distress Tolerance Skill- ACCEPTS”

Practicing Mindfulness with Mindful Eating ( Hersey Kisses )

This is a BONUS episode to help practice mindfulness. You will need a Piece of Chocolate or Candy to do this activity. I used Hershey Chocolate Kisses.  Take about 5 minutes to practice practice mindfulness.