Understanding Dialectics

Dialectics are helpful way to view the world. In simple terms, it is when two opposing truths can be true at the same time. a.) Dialectics teach us that there are more than one way to see a situation and more than one way to solve any problem. b.) Dialectics consider all people to haveContinue reading “Understanding Dialectics”

The Behavior Chain Analysis (BCA) Tool

The Behavior Chain Analysis Tool is used many times throughout the DBT treatment. It can feel overwhelming to some and it is designed to help the client and therapist both understand all the surrounding elements that cause problematic behavior.  Problematic Behaviors can be: Smoking Drinking Cutting/Self Harm Eating Issues Not Taking Medication Missing Sessions/Canceling/Showing upContinue reading “The Behavior Chain Analysis (BCA) Tool”

10 Laws of Boundaries and Interpersonal Effectivness

When learning how to be the most effective in relationships we not only need to learn the criteria of when to say no and when to say yes, it is nice to have additional criteria to build from. This is information that is found in the book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. JohnContinue reading “10 Laws of Boundaries and Interpersonal Effectivness”

Interpersonal Effectiveness: Criteria for Saying Yes and No

Do you know how to effectively say YES and NO? The following is the DBT criteria for how to learn the intensity and the criteria on asking for a need to be met or for you to say no effectively and still maintain the relationship. At the end there is a game you can useContinue reading “Interpersonal Effectiveness: Criteria for Saying Yes and No”

Seasonal Affect Disorder

Winter can be tough for many reasons. It is dark, there is snow and many times we just want to stay in. Most of that is ok, it is when it starts to impact other areas of our lives and we start to see our mood declining. This is the purpose of knowing the differenceContinue reading “Seasonal Affect Disorder”

Distress Tolerance Skill – TIPP Skill

The TIPP Skill is a quick intervention that is used to change your body chemistry, so that you can begin to regain some control and then look for validation or problem solving. This is especially helpful in a panic attack situation or where you have just been triggered and feel numb. 

Distress Tolerance Skill- ACCEPTS

The Distress Tolerance Skill ACCEPTS is typically the FIRST intervention that I teach to my clients who just can not bounce back from high/extreme/big emotions. We start with Activities and the trick is to FULLY throw yourself into the activity for a set amount of time. Set a timer for 15/30/45 minutes. Check in withContinue reading “Distress Tolerance Skill- ACCEPTS”

Starting Mindfulness – What & How Skills

WHAT SKILLS OBSERVE Just Notice the experience. Watch your thoughts and feelings come and go like clouds in the sky. Do not push away your thoughts and feelings, just let them happen. Notice your body sessions – with all Senses (Seeing, smells, touch, taste, hearing)  Practice wordless watching Exercise: Take a quick 5-10 second glanceContinue reading “Starting Mindfulness – What & How Skills”

How to use DBT to set goals in Therapy and in Life.

The main goal in DBT is to decrease any-type of problem behavior. Behaviors to Decrease: Interpersonal Chaos, loneliness, being in unhealthy relationships  Unstable moods and emotions, and willfulness Impulsive behavior, difficulty accepting reality  Mindlessness, emptiness, judgmental attitude Behaviors to Increase: Interpersonal effectiveness Emotional Regulation Distress Tolerance Mindfulness Before setting a goal with a client weContinue reading “How to use DBT to set goals in Therapy and in Life.”

Top 3 Therapy Books ( Non-DBT )

Boundaries – Dr Henry Cloud and John Townsend Co-Dependent No More – Melody Beattie  Trauma Stewardship -Laura van Dernoot Lipsky As stated in my recent podcast I highlight reasons why these are my GO TO books that are non-DBT.